I'm going to be a grandmother.
Soon.
It's a boy!
Katie and her boyfriend Andy are going to be parents. The expected due date. November 13th. I'm scheduled for Florida November 6-14. Just bought the tickets last Wednesday. Timing is everything.
Here is the story...
Katie and Andy were introduced by a mutual friend and went out for the first time on New Year's Eve. They hit it off and within weeks I was hearing chatter about him being the "one".
In February, Andy's stepfather died, and they went to Florida. She met the whole family - sort of a trial by fire.
They have continued dating, and honestly, I can't find anything wrong with the young man. He got out of high school and knew that sports had been more important than school. He knew that he didn't know what he wanted, so he joined the Navy. He spent 5 years sailing around the Indian Ocean chasing Pirates! He got out of the Navy, got a job, started college...and met my daughter.
For the last few weeks, I've had a mother's intuition that something was up. Katie is not one to wear baggy clothes, and she wasn't, but there was something different about her. I knew she was on the pill (Walgreens gave me the wrong prescription), and I thought she might be pregnant, but the night before Maggie's graduation she had a drink with the rest of us. I figured I must be imagining things.
Last Friday, she came to us. After 6 sticks, and a visit to the doctor, it was confirmed. She had missed her period in May. She was scheduled for an ultrasound yesterday, to determine fetal age. We were guessing between 8-12 weeks.(April's period was very light) As the tech placed the probe on her belly, I immediately saw a face, and the tech and I said "oh my" at the same time. The tech looked at me and said
"Wow". We both knew that she was farther along than anyone expected. Farther along then they even imagined.
We're still not ready to go facebook public with this yet.
They are both very happy, shocked but happy, and are talking long term. They are not going to rush into marriage, and I'm ok with that. They need to make sure they can make this work.
As for me, right now I'm in love. I am sad for the things that I believe my daughter has lost. I'm sad for all of the things I dreamed for her in the motherhood fantasy I had created in my head. I worry that they have not had enough time to cultivate the relationship that will keep them together forever. I never want my grandchild to feel any sadness.
I worry that my husband is not talking about it at all. He showed no emotion when he saw the ultrasound photos yesterday. I worry that Katie will construe it as him not caring. I don't know how to explain to her in a way that she will understand, that is the same response I got...three times. The jump up and down is not in his DNA.
Aside from all of that...I am happy. Here's why...at 19, Katie was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovary Disease. Infertility was a real concern. It's hard to hear at 19 that you may never have children. She had run the rollercoaster of emotions over the last 6 years. It cost her in relationships. She had already told Andy...he understood and was ok with it. Then the unexpected happened. God does indeed work in mysterious ways.
Oh by the way - somebody wants to say Hi!
